We all have the choice to do what we want to do, how we want to live, but we have to take responsibility for the outcomes. What if we drill our beliefs into our loved ones, because we want them to live the better life that we think there is? What if there is a clash in our beliefs and the ones you love so dearly are upsetting you? Do you just let them go off on their own, letting them take their own consequences, or do you do what they expect of you, so they could live ways they desire, with your support?
Live in the moment. What a great ideology. But is that ideology still ideal when you have small children who depend on you? When you’re in your mid-sixties with no savings … and not enough money in your retirement fund to cover your expenses? In the event of unemployment, or emergency, you would not have any reserve in the bank to bring yourself out of the trouble because you live in the moment. You do what you believe are right, you enjoy the moment. The moment is now, so why worry about the future. Why save money in an emergency fund, and why not spend on the things you desire… they make you happy, now! Who cares if you just got a new phone ten months ago, you want the upgrade now! And it doesn’t matter if it cost another $200 that you don’t have… live in the moment.
What about living our lives responsibly? There will still be fun, but with the security in mind that you know you will retire when you want to. Enjoy your life, but not at the cost of your future or your children’s future. The children won’t remember or appreciate the thousands of dollars you spent on buying them toys…but they’ll remember the days in their youth when you cried to them and tell them that there is no money, when their relatives looked down on them, and when they could not afford a haircut or new clothes because you spent it all to live your moment. I know I do. It doesn’t mean I won’t buy them any toy, but I’d rather save more for them so they can live a normal life and afford to go to college if they choose to. It doesn’t mean I will live on ramen noodles and potatoes until I retire, I will enjoy life, but not lavishly or on the things I don’t need. I will buy the things I want when I can afford them.
Maybe I am asking too much in this tough time of yours, but I do not know how long this tough time will last, and how long I will have to deal with it… As you spend all yours and our money away to take away the stress… my frustration grows. You were my priority, and perhaps you would say otherwise because I won’t let you have everything you ask for, and I’m not there to support you when you expect me to, but it felt as if I have bent my life over just to accommodate your way of life… and perhaps this is coming to an end. Perhaps it’s finally time for you to take your own responsibilities… and I move on with mine…
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